Keep the child’s life as steady and stabile as you can. Try to stick to as many pre-divorce routines as possible. Children need the safety and comfort of what was the “everyday, every day” before the divorce to continue through and after the divorce. If there are changes and events coming up, which may include a move, different activities, visits with family members, or a parent going back to work or switching jobs, be sure and tell your children in advance, don’t spring it on them last-minute. Try to give them a long lead-time to digest the new news and get used to the idea of the new change. If you can, try to consult with them about the coming changes, and ask for their input where possible.